Skip to content

021 Cathy Smith – Client Self Discovery

reality, self discovery, coaching, coaching client,

Cathy Reports On Self Discovery And New Directions

Over every mountain there is a path, although it may not be seen from the valley.

– Theodore Roethke

Coaching For The Self Discovery Process – Street Reports

This Episode is our first CBJ interview with a coaching client. Cathy worked with a previous Interview Guest, Coach Peggy Sealfon – – and talks about her recovery from the client’s perceptions, the street side, the recipient side, of that coaching equation. Cathy was lost, and coaching helped her find herself. Her activity of change sealed the considerable progress she’s made.

Coaching And Reality – The Biggest Problem: Facing Changing Reality

In any recovery process your personal reality changes. Most often recovery evolves moving forward from disappointing, outdated expectations, your limited view of how you thought the world was supposed to work with you or for you. That disappointment is hard, but not as hard as entering your new reality of: what you must do next – you next responsibilities for advanced self management.

Just think of the Charles Dickens novel – Great Expectations. Everyone there lived in a variety of dreams that eventually ended, and forced each person to cope with the reality of their most meaningful, most significant relationships. Today we’re obviously not living in Victorian England. But Dickensian rules still apply today: if you don’t improve/widen your perceptions regarding reality, and, as a consequence, your relationships don’t change, then you will become, will remain, angry, depressed and broken. You could remain broken and stuck in outdated dreams for a lifetime.

Remember This

It’s not your actual, your real self that’s broken, it’s your expectations that became so real you internally locked them down as frozen in time, necessary for your survival – as if they were concrete reality. In any recovery, from relationships to drugs and alcohol, it’s the relationship misperceptions, the Great Relationship Expectations that create the most painful life experiences.

Reality is always changing. Effective Executive Function, workable working memory, synchronizes with change – rather than fighting it. Two important quotes from the beginnings of recorded history on time, nature, and change:

There is nothing permanent except change.

You cannot step into the same river twice.

~ Heraclitus 500 BC

Listen as Cathy tells you about hers….


Easily Forward This Message Link To a Friend


Subscribe & Review – iTunes


Your Next CoreBrain Journal Episode

022: Nancy Virden is an author who tried to kill herself, and lived to reconstruct her life in most meaningful ways. In January 2011, “I tried to end my life. At that time, I was certain of three things: I was a nothing; my life was only pain; and there was no hope for change. As psychiatric treatment progressed, I had to admit my way of doing life had not worked. The worst despair I’ve ever experienced culminated in the beginning of an inner renovation.” Nancy is engaging, humorous, and dead serious, all at once. This Episode will require a few deep breaths – and likely, even if you aren’t suicidal, will drive you to reconsider your progress with yourself in this life.


Produced By Studio Center – 7 Locations Nationally



About our mission, Dr Charles Parker

Our CBJ hosting objective is critical: upgrade mind and brain data through informed dialogue with neuroscience experts to build more predictable, more comprehensive, more understandable solutions for you and your family. Today's technology drives significantly improved mind-prognosis - beyond traditional psychiatric measures. Inaccurate labels, speculation, and guesswork are out - critical thinking, data, and measurement are in. Let's work together to connect advanced biomedical wisdom with everyday street reality. Start today. Advance informed care. Stay consistent. Measure for accuracy. Subscribe here. Pass it on.

Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.