Stress, Self-Management, Parenting & Teaching
The art of influence is to get the person to do what you want them to do – because they want to do it.
~ Marvin Marshall
Dr. Marvin Marshall is an international speaker (25 countries on 5 continents), educator, and author of numerous articles published in international journals. He is one of America’s leading experts on reducing the stress that is so prevalent in work relationships, schools, and homes. His many books include the multi-award winning, Parenting Without Stress: How to Raise Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own, the landmark education book Discipline Without Stress – Punishments or Rewards: How Teachers and Parents Promote Responsibility & Learning, and his recently published, Live Without Stress: How to Enjoy the Journey.
This interview reveals his effective, practical, mindful management tools that can create solutions at every level of stress in human interactions. Don’t miss his interesting, practical relationship and negotiation insights.
Dr. Marshall Weighs In On These Points
- You cannot stop emotions; however, by changing your thinking you can redirect emotions and reduce stress.
- Learn how to avoid being a victim regarding any situation, stimulation, or urge.
- Self-talk creates your reality and has a direct bearing on your feelings and stress levels.
- Choice ends when life ends. You are constantly making choices—both consciously and non-consciously. Being mindful of choices significantly reduces stress.
- You can control other people but you cannot change anyone but yourself. Learn how to influence people so they will change themselves to do what you want them to do.
- Influencing rather than aiming to control is more effective and reduces stress levels.
- Discover how aiming at obedience and perfection are pathways to stress.
- Problems and challenges can be easily resolved with solving circles – managing the dialogue. Stress is a box encapsulated by too few options.
Dr. Marshall Reports: How To Negotiate Effectively
- The classroom changed after 24 years
- Eisenhower’s example regarding coercion
- Negative thinking creates negative actions
- The art of asking reflective questions
- Silence after your question
- I’m interested in responsible behavior not the person’s feelings
- Diagram of relationships in parenting
- Your assumptions color perceptions
- Sponsor Notes: The Berry Robinson Center & Direct Health Access Laboratory
- Schools, classrooms and rules
- Kids need procedures and structures more than anything else
- Anxiety is caused by negatives and results in stress
- I get pleasure out of giving
— Dr. Charles Parker (@drcharlesparker) June 29, 2017
Previous CBJ Interviews on Stress, & Depression
- CBJ Veterans Page – http://corebrainjournal.com/vets – Updated regularly
- CBJ Mindset Page – http://corebrainjournal.com/mindset – Updated regularly
Dr. Marshall’s New Book – Bonus Drawing – Closes July, 14 ’17
Live Without Stress – How to Enjoy the Journey
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Dr. Marshall’s Website, Books & Reference
- Newsletter, Stress Connections: http://WithoutStress.com
- Speaking and Products: http://marvinmarshall.com
- Parenting Without Stress: How to Raise Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own – Global Amazon Link
- Discipline Without Stress – Punishments or Rewards: How Teachers and Parents Promote Responsibility & Learning – Global Amazon Link
- Live Without Stress: How to Enjoy the Journey – Global Amazon Link
- Stress and Health: Psychological, Behavioral, and Biological Determinants Neil Schneiderman, Gail Ironson, and Scott D. Siegel https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2568977/
- Download PDF: Solving Circles Explained Here
- For a complimentary Epilogue of his book: ask in the subject line “Epilogue” – marv marvinmarshall.com
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130 Ron Bittner created a game that brings family and brain injury victims together. His NuBrix game ‘construct’ is based on thirty years of construction, however, its deeper motivation is to bring people together to connect in any recovery process. He’s a board member of the American Combat Veterans of War who counsels and mentors younger veterans dealing with PTS and stress. During development of the game, it became evident that the concept captured both cognitive and motor skills and was inherent to therapy. It addresses three basic concepts for the brain to identify – shapes, color, and numbers. Family members can now feel empowered to help loved ones or friends rebuild their lives for greater potential while also receiving the neuro and stress reducing benefits. Therapeutic staff can use NuBrix to assess in a recreational setting and escalate the level of play by introducing advanced concepts and game design. A promising additional use: family gaming after dinner to develop both parents and children.
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